01，This is an adult problem. It is also a serious topic.
If you don’t like it or feel uncomfortable, you can just close it.
This topic was thought of by my husband and I together, and that night, we had a conversation all night.
Sex, love, marriage.
I heard this proposition for the first time when I was about 25 years old: sex is important to marriage.
Is a real thing:
A friend of mine ate with me and said that she was a girlfriend and had a boyfriend, and she probably broke up before getting married.
The problem is that the woman discovered that the man has a cold personality.
At that time, I was a little girl and had been in love, but I did not become a woman.
Ashamed to talk about this issue, he kept evasive.
However, everyone is more or less curious about sex.
Therefore, most adults cannot guarantee that they have never seen anyone else's nakedness on the screen.
Intentionally or unintentionally, hormones are the most honest. So don't be shy.
I said, probably men and women are also responsible for the next generation, so I am particularly interested in this matter.
My friend laughed.
02 .After getting married, I really began to understand: a harmonious sex life is a guarantee for a long and good marriage.
To put it briefly, when a person is sexually cold, the best way is to match a sexually cold.
so,If a man cheats under the condition of asexual life for a long time, then the woman also has an inescapable responsibility;
If a woman can't get a man's caress for a long time, don't blame her for going out of the wall.
Between normal husband and wife, it is necessary to maintain the necessary husband and wife life. That is, between men and women, do not underestimate the power of married life.
Of course, if you think your platonic love can last forever, I believe that the sexless life between you is within the range of mutual acceptance.
There are too many divorced people around me because there is no good sex life.
Marriage without sex must be no longer in love. I don't believe that two people sleeping in the same bed, each other like dead fish, will last forever.
I am a male friend, because my wife divorced after nearly half a year without a husband and wife life without any illness.
During a meal, he said that if it is because of illness, I can understand it, but for no other reason, a normal man sleeps next to a woman for a long time, but can't get any satisfaction. I don't know what to do.
Her wife later confirmed that she had cheated on another man from the same unit, and she intercepted the other man at the door of the hotel room with her own eyes.
If the other party does not touch you for a long time, there are only two possibilities:
1. It is not really necessary. In short, it may be a cold personality;
2. There is another possibility that he was satisfied through other means, such as the opposite sex outside.
Both of these situations are devastating to marriage.
Zhang Ailing has a saying that if marriage is to make a living, marriage is a long-term prostitution. Nowadays, there are not so many people who maintain marriage for the purpose of subsistence. However, love is not only talked about, but also made.
03
I didn't understand why at one time our grandfathers and grandmothers didn't know each other before, because the moment we met with the red hijab, we could sleep in the same bed for so many years, or even grow old. I once made a bold hypothesis: 1. When couples live, they will gradually become more dependent on each other; 2. When hormones are secreted, they will have a more and more vague recognition of each other’s appearance, which is because Familiarity, but forget the beauty and ugliness. Of course, except for particularly beautiful or particularly ugly. Then, I asked no less than 50 friends in private and got the same answer. I think of a survey I read many years ago. The longer a couple stays together, they will even get closer and closer together. It is the legendary "husband and wife", and this husband and wife also comes from the fusion of the two people after the long-term love of men and women. Think about it, my grandfather and my grandmother are introductions, not feelings first. Now they are 85 years old and alive. My father and my mother also introduced each other. My father once generously admitted that they got married first and then had feelings. At present, he has been married for more than 30 years. A good marriage really means a harmonious married life + mutual tolerance + mutual support.
04
Someone asked, is love important and sex important? Anyway, I think there is no difference, that is, it is indispensable. I have always opposed the current saying that love is the basis of marriage, it is too important and important. In my concept, sex is the skeleton to support you to go on, and love is the skin. It is good for you to look comfortable, like each other, and admire by outsiders. Love is of course more important. Without a good skin, it is not a married life. Obviously, it is only a married life. But without a husband and wife life, no matter how good the skin is, it is impossible to stand tall. So, no matter how busy you are, please don't give up the necessary husband and wife life and the necessary love care, both of which are very important. You should never underestimate the infinite benefits of every love between men and women, and don’t miss every love and tolerance. Sex, love, and marriage are the truth. Enough love and doing enough is the basic ability of marriage.
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